Here we go. We’ve had our first toddler tantrum. In fact, we’ve had a fair few. Now I’m fully aware that they’re only going to get worse from here. The day Oliver has his first tantrum in a busy supermarket I’ll probably be having a meltdown too! For now, I’ll ignore it’s only going to get worse.
I’d been waiting for Oliver’s first tantrum but I think I handled it pretty well! I thought I’d share with you how I dealt with it for anyone else who is preparing for their toddlers first tantrum.
That First Tantrum
I must admit, Oliver’s first tantrum was hard not to find utterly adorable. He got all angry, started to shout and stamped his feet. It doesn’t sound adorable but I’m sure other parents will understand what I mean. The first time I think was because we wouldn’t let him trash one of our cupboards. We asked him to stop what he was doing, shut the cupboard door and moved him away. That’s when it began! After a few seconds of Nathan and I secretly going ‘Awww!’, I decided I didn’t want to just leave him to get angry. It took a fair while to calm him down, but eventually he did.
Obviously I know I’m no expert and every child is completely different, but I wanted to share some tips on surviving your first toddler tantrum.
Get down to their level and stay calm
Something I always like to remind myself is not to get angry when Oliver is unhappy. I like to get down to his level so I’m not big and scary to him, and tell him it’s okay to be unhappy but remind him on why he wasn’t allowed to do what he was doing. In the past when I’ve raised my voice at Oliver it doesn’t go down well, so I always find this method works so much better.
Give them a hug
Nothing beats a cuddle, right?!
Try to distract them from what they were doing
I find whenever Oliver is doing something he’s not meant to do if we distract him with something else, he cheers up immediately.
Give them a drink
Having a drink always seems to help calm Oliver down. Whether it be because he’s distracted for a nice period of time or just having a drink relaxes him. It’s something I always offer him when he’s unhappy.
I know not all of these will work for all children, but hopefully these tips may help someone facing a toddler tantrum. I know they’re only going to get worse from here, so I’ll brace myself for them! Have you faced a toddler tantrum yet? What are your tips on surviving them? Let me know in the comments!