Surviving Your First Toddler Tantrum

Here we go. We’ve had our first toddler tantrum. In fact, we’ve had a fair few. Now I’m fully aware that they’re only going to get worse from here. The day Oliver has his first tantrum in a busy supermarket I’ll probably be having a meltdown too! For now, I’ll ignore it’s only going to get worse.

I’d been waiting for Oliver’s first tantrum but I think I handled it pretty well! I thought I’d share with you how I dealt with it for anyone else who is preparing for their toddlers first tantrum.


That First Tantrum

I must admit, Oliver’s first tantrum was hard not to find utterly adorable. He got all angry, started to shout and stamped his feet. It doesn’t sound adorable but I’m sure other parents will understand what I mean. The first time I think was because we wouldn’t let him trash one of our cupboards. We asked him to stop what he was doing, shut the cupboard door and moved him away. That’s when it began! After a few seconds of Nathan and I secretly going ‘Awww!’, I decided I didn’t want to just leave him to get angry. It took a fair while to calm him down, but eventually he did.

Obviously I know I’m no expert and every child is completely different, but I wanted to share some tips on surviving your first toddler tantrum.

Get down to their level and stay calm

Something I always like to remind myself is not to get angry when Oliver is unhappy. I like to get down to his level so I’m not big and scary to him, and tell him it’s okay to be unhappy but remind him on why he wasn’t allowed to do what he was doing. In the past when I’ve raised my voice at Oliver it doesn’t go down well, so I always find this method works so much better.

Give them a hug

Nothing beats a cuddle, right?!

Try to distract them from what they were doing

I find whenever Oliver is doing something he’s not meant to do if we distract him with something else, he cheers up immediately.

 Give them a drink

Having a drink always seems to help calm Oliver down. Whether it be because he’s distracted for a nice period of time or just having a drink relaxes him. It’s something I always offer him when he’s unhappy.


I know not all of these will work for all children, but hopefully these tips may help someone facing a toddler tantrum. I know they’re only going to get worse from here, so I’ll brace myself for them! Have you faced a toddler tantrum yet? What are your tips on surviving them? Let me know in the comments!


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  1. 26/02/2018 / 6:08 pm

    Great tips 🙂 I don’t have a child of my own yet, but I’be found these work well with my cousins, so will also use this method on my own children 🙂


    • Sarah Pears
      27/02/2018 / 9:02 pm

      Thank you! That’s great, so glad they work well for others too!

    • Sarah Pears
      27/02/2018 / 9:02 pm

      Thank you! Distractions always seem to work the best! :’)

  2. 26/02/2018 / 7:04 pm

    I don’t have children but these sound like great sensible tips! ? Thank you for sharing your advice and hope the tantrums will not be to often! ? xx

    Bexa |

    • Sarah Pears
      27/02/2018 / 9:03 pm

      Thank you! They’ve not been too bad the past few days, but I don’t want to jynx it hahaha! xx

  3. 26/02/2018 / 7:39 pm

    There is something completely adorable and also almost funny about tantrums – when they’re at home I mean, NOT in public. Dougie had a tantrum on a train the other day and I wanted to immediately get off and hide! Generally at home I kind of leave him to it – not to the point where he is really distressed, but to let him work through it himself. We have a little pop-up tent in our living room, and he used to go and sit in there after a tantrum, like a self-imposed time out and he would slowly gather his toys and calm down. You’re right, staying calm yourself is SO important. I find it difficult sometimes not to get really frustrated with him, but I just take some deep breaths and remind myself that while I know that not being allowed to play with a wok is a completely reasonable request, to him its obviously a huge deal and I’m taking away something he wants! If we’re in public, I tend to resort to some kind of distraction/bribery with food or drink!
    Hels xx

    • Sarah Pears
      27/02/2018 / 9:05 pm

      Aw that’s adorable he used to go into his tent! That’s so nice knowing he’d try to calm down by himself. The tantrums are too adorable sometimes :’) But definitely not in public haha! xx

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