I’ve always pictured myself with lots of children. Well, I say lots, I’d be happy with three. I’ve always wanted three children. I’m not fussed what sex they’ll be, but I know I want three. Oliver is 14 months old (soon to be 15 months) and I’ll be honest, I’m getting a bit broody. I’m seeing more and more pregnancy announcements and I must admit I’m slightly jealous. I remember the feeling of seeing those positive lines on a pregnancy test and going to our first scan. Although I’m feeling broody and dying to have more babies, I’m just not ready yet.
There’s a few things we want to do before we start trying for another child. As much as I’d love to fall pregnant now, it’s just not the right time for us.
I want to lose weight first
Something I’ve banged on about for ages is that I want to lose weight. I put on a lot of weight in my pregnancy with Oliver and it’s something I don’t want to happen again. I want to get down to my pre-pregnancy weight and then look after my body during the next pregnancy. Now that I’ve got this ‘target’ in mind, it should motivate me more to actually eat healthier – she says whilst eating a packet of Oreos…..
We have planned events
We’ve got a few things we want to get past first before trying for another baby. We have my brother-in-law’s wedding next May and I don’t want to be heavily pregnant or with a newborn. We’ve also got a holiday just after their wedding so it wouldn’t be ideal – we went on holiday to Florida when Oliver was just 8 weeks old so I know what it’s like!
We want to finish organising our house
We bought a house back in June and we still haven’t finished sorting through the boxes or decorating… It’s something I’d like to work on and finish before another baby arrives. Our spare room, which would be the babies nursery, is our dumping ground for things that need to go into our loft, so I’d like to clear that room first at least!
I want Oliver to be in nursery
Oliver will be turning two next July, and we hope he’ll be attending nursery next September. I’d prefer Oliver to be in a nursery when we have our second baby, as it’ll just make it a little easier during the day whilst he’s out. I know Oliver will be the best brother to our second child, but having a few days with just me and the baby will be (slightly) calmer.
I want my body to be my own for just a little longer
For anyone who has been pregnant, you’ll probably understand when I say I want my body to be mine for just a bit longer. When you’re pregnant for so long, it feels so good when you can drink and eat whatever you want again, and having to carry a baby for so long is hard on your body. So for this reason, I just want a little bit longer with my body again. This may sound stupid to some, but I’m hoping some of you may understand what I mean.
Once we have all of this out of the way, we’ll hopefully start trying for another baby. It may be next year, or the year after, but eventually I want to have more babies. Are you in the situation where you want more babies but aren’t quite ready yet? Let me know your thoughts in the comments!