Was I Just Being A Paranoid Mum?

If you follow me on Twitter or Instagram you would have noticed my son, Oliver, hasn’t been very well with a bad cold lately. Luckily he’s feeling a lot better now and only has a runny nose occasionally – I’m the one with the cold now! During the week his cold was at it’s worst, but on Wednesday evening it got really bad and it started to affect his breathing. I might sound like a paranoid mum but I was so worried that we took him to A&E.

I like to think that I’m not the only parent who would have done this. He was so irritable and every breath he took was joined with a horrible tight wheezy noise – not forgetting to mention he was also crying in pain and trying to cough like crazy. It was horrible to see him struggling and in such pain, so deep down I desperately wanted him to get checked over, but I couldn’t help but feel like I was being paranoid. I just didn’t want to risk it.

Oliver - Being That Paranoid Mum

What would you do?


We settled Oliver down for bed around 7pm but by 9:30pm he’d woken up screaming. Usually we can just settle him down again but he wasn’t having it. He was clearly in a lot of pain. My husband brought Oliver downstairs to relax with us until he’d calmed down but we soon noticed his breathing difficulties. I went straight into panic mode and worried if he was okay. After a lot of ‘should we?’s we decided it was for the best if we got him checked over. We did think about calling 111, the non-emergency NHS helpline, but I’ve called them before and if I remember the questions they ask correctly, Oliver would have been recommended to be seen anyway, so I thought I’d cut out the middle man!

This was the first time we’d visited our local hospital since moving home a few months ago, so there was a lot of ‘where the hell do we go?’ said shouted in the car – We get very stressed in these situations! Once we were checked in Oliver was seen really quickly because of his age. He was soon known as the ‘screaming toddler’ to all the paediatricians in the department – Seriously! On his patient sheet it said ‘Screamer!’.

Oliver did soon calm down, when he wasn’t getting poked and prodded, and his breathing started to get so much better. This didn’t make my ‘am I just being paranoid’ feeling go away, it just made it worse. I now looked like the Mum who brought my son in because he had a slight cough. Luckily the nurses/paediatricians were so understanding and said this always happens to young children. Being awake at night and in a new environment always seems to perk them up!

Luckily they weren’t too concerned


After having a listen to his chest they were confident that the wheeziness and crackling in his breathing wasn’t in his chest and it’s just where he was in pain and so upset that his cold was being aggravated. He’s still at the age where he doesn’t quite know how to clear his throat properly like we do, so the mucus was just sitting in his throat, so it sounded worse than it actually was. We’ve been advised to keep an eye out on his breathing in case it does get worse. The paediatrician we saw was ever so lovely and told us we did well for bringing him in to get checked. Obviously this made me feel much better.

We got home and Oliver spent the night in our bed with us, and the next morning he woke up like nothing was wrong – He was such a happy chappy! I’m amazed with how quickly he felt better and we even managed to meet some friends during the day!

Oliver - Paranoid Mum

Was I just paranoid and started to panic?


At the end of the day Oliver’s health it the most important thing, but I don’t want to look like I’m the sort of mother who jumps at every cut, bump or cough that happens with him. There’s just some things you can’t help but take very seriously, and breathing is one of them. I can’t exactly ask Oliver if he’s okay or if he needs help, as he can’t even talk yet. All of the responsibility is on us as parents, and I do not want to risk anything life threatening happening to him. I hope I’m not the only person who is like this!

To be honest, I shouldn’t really give a crap what people think of me. It’s my child and I’d do anything to help him. I just can’t help it though. I don’t want it to look like I was wasting NHS time. Am I the only one who would have done this? Please tell me I’m not! Luckily Oliver’s breathing is much better and I don’t think we have anything to worry about.


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  1. 16/10/2017 / 2:07 am

    Of course your not paranoid, You are a mother & Any mother would of done the same including me. Health is never to risked & Like you said the hospital was understanding. I am glad he’s feeling better now & Im glad you did get him checked 🙂 x

    • Sarah Pears
      19/10/2017 / 6:38 pm

      Ahh I’m so glad to hear you’d do the same! When I told a few people we’d taken him to A&E I didn’t get a sympathetic response, but got a ‘hmm riiiight’ look.. You can never win as a parent! :’) xx

  2. 16/10/2017 / 11:22 am

    It’s the hardest thing when they are poorly. We were in a similar situation not too long again, as you said, they don’t understand how to clear their throat – I was in a similar situation – every breath Dougie took made him sound like he smoked 40 a day, it was horrible. We called 111 and they said just to keep an eye on it which I didn’t find particularly helpful. He dozed off on me after about an hour of screaming which was making him hoarse so we didn’t want to wake him by taking him to be checked out so we waited and I called the GP first thing.
    I don’t think you can ever be too cautious when it comes to your baby’s health, I absolutely think you did the right thing, you should always trust your instincts.
    Hels xx

    • Sarah Pears
      19/10/2017 / 6:36 pm

      Ohh poor boy! Yeah being told to ‘watch them’ isn’t very helpful, as that’s obviously what you’d do and that’s why you’ve phoned 111! I hope he’s back to normal soon.. It’s just so horrible 🙁 xx

  3. 24/10/2017 / 10:01 am

    Definitely did the right thing! I would have been exactly the same! Worrying just proves how much love you have for your son

  4. 07/01/2018 / 4:21 am

    I’m so petrified of the first time my 5month old gets sick… When I saw your share, I had to read it immediately. Just knowing others feel the same way and understand the panic lol. I’m so happy the doctors & nurses were sympathetic with you – & most of all everything worked out! Again thanks for sharing such a scary, personal moment! Helps me realize I’ll survive when it happens to me lol

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